Thoughts Of Our Loss — RIP Hayden Kennedy and Inge Perkins

Post by blogger | October 11, 2017      

As the days go by, the pain doesn’t go away — we ache. These words from Christopher Walken beautifully express how I will try to live on with the cavernous hole in my heart:

Hayden Kennedy breaking the trail.

Hayden Kennedy breaking trail.

“Someday you will be faced with the reality of loss. And as life goes on, days rolling into nights, it will become clear that you never really stop missing someone special who’s gone, you just learn to live around the gaping hole of their absence.”

“When you lose someone you can’t imagine living without, your heart breaks wide open, and the bad news is you never completely get over the loss… However, in a backwards way, this is also the good news. They will live on in the warmth of your broken heart that doesn’t fully heal back up, and you will continue to grow and experience life, even with your wound.”

“It’s like badly breaking an ankle that never heals perfectly, and that still hurts when you dance, but you dance anyway with a slight limp, and this limp just adds to the depth of your performance and the authenticity of your character. The people you lose remain a part of you…”

— Christopher Walken

Bon voyage, Hayden and Inge, your radiant light lives on.


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4 Responses to “Thoughts Of Our Loss — RIP Hayden Kennedy and Inge Perkins”

  1. John B October 12th, 2017 8:57 am

    An appropriate quote Lou. Words beyond that elude me. Take care.

  2. Montanaskier October 12th, 2017 11:27 am

    I didn’t know Inge or Hayden. Because I have followed WildSnow for many years, I feel like I know the Kennedy family or at least things about them. I am so sorry for these huge losses to these families. I can’t imagine losing my kids. I have made the same mistakes and paid no price…..and don’t understand why it has to be this way.

    I have been backcountry skiing for 25 years with close calls, lots of lessons, and several friends who are gone. I’m just another skier trying to make good decisions and be careful while taking risks in the mountains. My favorite ski partner in the world is my wife and we take the risks together just like Hayden and Inge. This accident, like many others before it, causes me to lay awake at night feeling the pain others must be feeling. Rest in peace young friends. Comfort and tears to the families and those missing these good kids.

  3. Bruno Schull October 12th, 2017 12:07 pm

    Montanaskier, you expressed how I feel. I didn’t know Hayden Kennedy and Inge Perkins, nor their families, but I feel like I’m somewhat familiar with the Kennedy family, from following the climbing accomplishments of father and son, and reading blog posts and comments on this site. Perhaps because of this indirect connection, and because of circumstances, which feel especially tragic, I have found myself thinking about this very much the last few days. Every few hours…when I’m not concentrating on something else…the thoughts return. As a parent, my greatest nightmare is loosing my child. It’s just so painful to imagine. To the Kennedy and Perkins families, just a deep feeling of empathy, and the small comfort knowing that Hayden and Inge made so very much of their time here.

  4. Lisa Dawson October 12th, 2017 12:20 pm

    John B., Montanaskier and Bruno, thank you for your kind words. Love from our community is such a comfort during this sad, sad time.

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